This is not how I thought it would be…

How many of us have had that thought?

You’ve worked incredibly hard to succeed in school and twenty job applications later, no response.

You married the love of your life but they come home tired each day and now you wake up to their morning breath and pre-coffee attitude.

You did it! You made it through the nine months of pregnancy and gave birth to a beautiful baby! But now you can’t shake the sad, and they won’t stop crying.

Retirement is lonelier than you thought it would be.

People hurt you deeply.

Every person faces disappointment with where their life is at at some point. It’s an inevitable fact of life.

The good news is that you don’t have to stay there. Every moment, you get to decide what you are going to do with your situation.

I’m not saying you just need to think positive, or that it’s time to cut that person out of your life. Not every disappointment requires a breakthrough decision.

I’m saying, every day you get to chose your mindset. You can decide to focus on the disappointment, hurt, discouragement, or you can decide to learn from them and find a way forward.

You can wallow in your disappointment or hurt. Or you can decide to work on what YOU can control.

Sometimes that means getting help, contacting your doctor, your therapist, or even just having a difficult conversation with the other person involved.

But every day you can ask yourself this question:

What can I control in this situation? Attitude, finances, boundaries; these are all in your control at some level.

Let’s not wallow in disappointment. Let’s acknowledge the disappointment, and then send it on its way.

It is what it is, what will you do with it?

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